REFLECT on the idiom “He who hesitates is lost” wherein I exchange the word “lost” for “bossed.”
“One who cannot come to a decision will suffer for it, as in I couldn’t make up my mind, and now the offer has expired—he who hesitates is lost.” Although the idea is undoubtedly older, the present wording is a misquotation or an adaptation from Joseph Addison’s play Cato (1712): “The woman that deliberates is lost.”
It seems not to be a stretch to suggest that when we hesitate in our decision-making, we are “bossed” by our circumstances, people or our thought processes. As the verses below state, asking for wisdom from the One Who IS Wisdom, will equip us to tap into a decisive stance. The twin demons of perfectionism and procrastination keep us shackled to an indecisive mindset. The fear of making the wrong decision, or even a poor one, puts into motion that double “P” paradigm.
It has been helpful in my daily walk to remind myself that this journey is about direction (walking in the light 1 John 1:5-7), not perfection. We are on a journey with Jesus. It is about that #relationship; not about our performance. When we make decisions in the context of that relationship, we will make better-informed decisions.
So what are some of the ways you see that you have been unnecessarily “bossed” by someone or something? Will you begin today to reassess your approach to decision making to be more pleasing to Him? I’m determined to make a concerted effort to embrace that approach.
If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask him, and he will gladly tell you, for he is always ready to give a bountiful supply of wisdom to all who ask him; he will not resent it. 6 But when you ask him, be sure that you really expect him to tell you, for a doubtful mind will be as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind; 7-8 and every decision you then make will be uncertain, as you turn first this way and then that. If you don’t ask with faith, don’t expect the Lord to give you any solid answer. James 1:5-8, The Living Bible translation